tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post5720548966546414781..comments2023-05-13T08:06:33.385-04:00Comments on Lilies and Elephants: Your Reality May Not Be MineMaya Northen Augellihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02469306092296810650noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-82877792660920321282016-03-24T11:09:35.956-04:002016-03-24T11:09:35.956-04:00Thank you for sharing your story. I think being aw...Thank you for sharing your story. I think being aware of oneself, and focusing on being happy with what you have. I think that is actually a big marker of success - so many people are not. I think it's great that you are able to give financially, and the fact that you do it inconspicuously, unlike many who do it for the accolades and how it looks to others, is great! Sounds like you've taken a lot of time to look inward and learn about yourself and what works best for you. Maya Northen Augellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02469306092296810650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-46337421521659913492016-03-24T07:10:56.202-04:002016-03-24T07:10:56.202-04:00i suffer from same sort of cycles every alternate ...i suffer from same sort of cycles every alternate day…i have embraced it and work with it….i am privilaged to be born in a business family…i go to teach at a school in the morning, and then afternoon onwards i spend my time managing a hotel and wedding hall place we own…i get off post 10 in the night…no weekends for me as my off days at school are incidentally the bussiest at my place of business…being married, i have to make most of the off time i get with my wife<br /><br />i cope with this routine by managing my mood swings…i have rented a two bedroom space which is mostly vacant except when i visit it for few hours during my off time<br />i have also found things that help me brighten up during an off phase…i read and listen to good poetry…i make love to some new beautiful lady…i blow it off on people working under me…eating good food also helps a lot but i mostly avoid it because i have a tendency to get fat very quickly (i am a bit bulky already)…<br />one other thing i have done is grow a beard…i have found out it helps me conceal my sulky expressions when having an off phase…plus makes me look more mature so i dont have to explain to people my reasons for giving philosophical replies to simple questions, something i tend to do when i am going through off time<br />i have also found out that specifying somethings for yourself to do everyday no matter what, also helps….for me its jogging and praying altough i am never able to maintain it for long before having intervals when i dont do it<br />i never take up any extra responsibility that i dont have to…i keep a strict circle of friends and avoid any desire or attempt to socialize with new ones<br />at home i have adopted a laid back approach…i never react to anything said or done as i know it will mostly be erratic and angry due to my mood swing…i just smile and put up with my relations even if i dont like anything…when it gets too much and i blow up with my parents or wife, i apologize soon afterwards knowing that the venting out is due to my problem<br />i know most of these strategies hinder me from becoming super successfull but i have stopped wanting that…i just stay happy with what i got<br />plus i have found out that helping others gives me stabilising ego boost…as i am too moody to maintain constant energy for that, what i do alternately is to share my income…i give a certain part of it to people who i know need it…and i try and do it inconspicuously beacause i know if it becomes highlighted i might stop doing it<br />key is to recognize things you are emotional about and trying to avoid and regulate them by adopting attitude and doing things that work best for you…you do not have to kill your problem because that is highly unlikely…you just have to conceal and regulate it properly<br />i will like to add that i got enrolled in the graduation program of one of the top institutes in my country but could not complete it…the only reason i survived that was due to my privilaged background<br />i had a friend back in university who suffered from the same…but he has been still to date unable to make anything of himself because he lacked the cushion i had in the form a loving family…i have mostly been thankless to them but i thank god a lot for it<br />also i think one should be completely self aware of one’s problem but should try and solve it oneself and never admit any weakness openly…that helps one carry a sense of accomplishment which aids in fighting the problem<br />when i failed at a few things, i never admitted any fault with anyone and kept a stubborn outlook…but inside i indulged in thorough self analysis and was able to gradually right a lot of my wrongs…its still the same struggle<br />i am no success story…but i am living along relatively betterAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com