tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post882102615600296313..comments2023-05-13T08:06:33.385-04:00Comments on Lilies and Elephants: What My Exes Taught Me About Love and Life Maya Northen Augellihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02469306092296810650noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-58305123198297914472015-07-21T09:44:07.975-04:002015-07-21T09:44:07.975-04:00Absolutely! I have been in so many fights in which...Absolutely! I have been in so many fights in which at the end i think, "how did that argument even start? What was that even about?". I think that's often the case when you hold things in. One thing sets you off and really it's not the thing itself, and you spend all this time arguing about some minute detail, when really, it's something else that's fueling the frustration, hurt, anger, etc. Sometimes, we don't even know it ourselves. Maya Northen Augellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02469306092296810650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-54011052717289848022015-07-21T09:42:13.715-04:002015-07-21T09:42:13.715-04:00Nice summary of some of the main points about marr...Nice summary of some of the main points about marriage relationships, Maya. I especially like "Make sure you're actually fighting the same battle," to which I would probably add, "Make sure that you are fighting the battle that you think you are fighting."EMMLPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13731327600470046504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-60166885296477385662015-07-21T09:39:50.726-04:002015-07-21T09:39:50.726-04:00Great summary of important points, Maya. I especia...Great summary of important points, Maya. I especially like "Make sure you are actually fighting the same battle," to which I would probably add, "make sure you are fighting the battle you think you are fighting."EMMLPhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13731327600470046504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-88563090030835719642015-07-14T13:38:24.348-04:002015-07-14T13:38:24.348-04:00Absolutely! And whenever I'm in danger of cate...Absolutely! And whenever I'm in danger of categorizing good and bad, I try to think of a time that I did something I wasn't proud of - said something that really upset someone, lost my temper, etc - and remind myself that doing that thing doesn't make me a bad person (assuming, as you said, it wasn't done intentionally to hurt someone). That helps me forgive others' deeds more quickly. Maya Northen Augellihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02469306092296810650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6603883426306376921.post-56683792819701204902015-07-14T13:35:15.447-04:002015-07-14T13:35:15.447-04:00I think too often we forget that good people can d...I think too often we forget that good people can do bad things. We're too quick to categorize the person as bad when in fact it's just the deed done in error. None of us are perfect!<br /><br />Stopping by from the Northeast Bloggers. SMD @ lifeaccordingtostephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09884611147965544589noreply@blogger.com