It may not even be a good day. It may be a good half a day, or a good couple of hours. It may simply not be a bad day, and those with chronic illness know you have to grab those opportunities because you never know when it may taken a turn for the worse. I might have woken up this morning, or yesterday morning, with in a terrifying depressive episode. But as I'm rapid cycling, I've cycled out of it. Or I might wake up feeling perfectly fine, and cycle into hypomania by the end of the day. Something could trigger my anxiety at any moment. With a chronic illness, you are never not ill. You just don't have to feel it every living, breathing moment, thank goodness. Yet the general public seems to think that you do. They seem to think that if you were fine yesterday, how can you be unable to get out of bed today. Or if you were horribly ill last week, how can you manage to be out having a cup of coffee with a friend this week like a ... gasp... normal person. Aren't you sick? Surely you must not be that bad if you can manage to get out of the house. But this is ridiculous. It's like saying that a dedicated employee must work every holiday, even if the company is closed for the day, because otherwise they're clearly not dedicated enough. Battling a chronic illness takes a tremendous amount of strength, effort, and perseverance. If our illness gives us a "day off", why should we not be allowed to enjoy it?
Chronic and invisible illnesses deal with enough stigma. We already have to explain why we can't just "get better" or "push through it". We already have to explain that mental health conditions aren't just a bad attitude, that we're not just lazy or not trying hard enough, but that they're an actual medical conditions that respond to treatment. So if we have a day where we don't feel or look sick, let us have it without judgement We spend enough time battling illness. Don't make us battle your stigmatization and lack of understanding as well.